And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight inside the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.
-Anais Nin
This quote is one that reminds us of the energy it takes to keep emotions under wraps, resist sharing our own needs and wants and the impact it can have when we don’t address these issues. When Anais Nin says there is a “risk” to remaining tight inside the bud – what could this mean? What are the risks? It seems that remaining closed up, not releasing ourselves to share ourselves with others may actually keep us isolated in relationships, unable to connect and feeling lonely, sad and misunderstood. This can be very painful and leave people feeling unfulfilled. As well, it can lead to health issues (high blood pressure, depression, anxiety, over-eating, etc.)
But what is the “risk” in blossoming? Opening up to others and feeling vulnerable and/or dependent could be risky in that you may get hurt, not get your needs met, or be disappointed in others. These are definite RISKS in opening up. However, it also allows us to learn about ourselves, how to handle and manage emotions, how to be connected, heard by others and hear what others have to offer. It is far better to have tried to connect and learned from that, than to not connect at all.
So, take a risk – reach out to another person – share of yourself and face the consequences – it’ll be well worth the journey.
